How to be your own best friend on meltdown days

Confession: you’re not the only one who has bad days. It’s a creative Thing, they say. An “artistic temperament” has your mood cycling up and down – one minute you’re inspired and creative and you’re going to change the world, and the next minute you’re despairing and can’t seem to tie your own shoelaces. Now, an aside: if you’re having serious mental health difficulties, of COURSE you must seek professional assistance and get the help you need, and I encourage you to do so. Please, please take care of yourself. But what about the rest of us? Of course you can lean on your friends when times are truly hard, but you might not want to rely on them to rescue you every single time you wobble. What if you’re just frustrated by the standard size emotional rollercoaster, and you want to get off it in a self-sufficient way without bothering others with your artistic flail-a-thon every other day? Here’s what I do to manage most of the hard days – and it’s ridiculously simple....

How to find peace in needle and thread (yes, really)

I know, I know, I must be out of my mind. You’ve got to finish the thing in time for the event, or the order in time for the deadline, and and and… I want to add another tool to your arsenal – another unlikely way to stop sewing being an exercise in frustration, and make it an escape to peace. It’s so simple, and yet I know so many people who don’t do this… try it and see if makes a difference for you,...

How to stop sewing being a chore

So many people I know see their sewing as a necessary evil. It’s the frustratingly high price they pay to get the new dress, or the new corset, or the new outfit. But I don’t see it that way. This week I’ve finished a project that I’ve been working on, little by little, for three months. Three whole months, and it’s just a chemise! But it’s so much more than a chemise… PS. Follow me on Instagram to see a daily baby step on my latest sewing...

How to measure your ACTUAL level of expertise

Let’s take a frank look at our actual level of expertise. How do you measure whether you’re skilled enough to take on that new project? (And if it’s just unnecessary anxiety that’s getting to you, how do you work around that?) And, if we’re in business, how do we convince others of our expertise – and how do we know when we’re good enough to go pro? It’s a meaty one this week, but it’s a meaty subject…  ...

How to stop your perfectionism (and when to use it for good)

The conversation in your head is unrelenting, and it’s driving you nuts. Overthinking it. Overcomplicating it. Overanalyzing it. Is it good enough? Compared to what? Will they like it? How do you¬†even learn to LIKE the end result of all your hard work? Let’s straighten this out: Where’s the line between having standards and fighting the perfectionism that cripples us? And how do you stop that voice that keeps telling you that nothing you do is good...

How to get inspired when life feels stale

Nothing is going right – and it hasn’t been going right for a while. You’re creatively blocked, or bored, or frustrated, and kind of hating everything. What can you do to break that pattern and get back to that excited, inspired place we all love to be?...

How to find time to sew

How do you find time to sew when you feel so busy that there IS no time? People I refer to in the video: Nick Wilton: Art2Life Merja Palkivaara: Before the Automobile Follow my two hours of sewing each day on Instagram:...

How to hear the haters and do it anyway

There was a time when nobody around me “got” my love of sewing unusual clothing. I even won an award for how “badly” I dressed. What did I do about it? I kept going anyway (even when it...

Do you have a supportive sewing community?

A strong, positive community is a must in your life and your sewing… to lift you up and pull you forward when you need support. I know, I know, I’m an introvert too, but it’s worth finding a special sewing family you can trust. Let me give you an example of what “family” can do…...