Stop being so hard on yourself

I know I’m not the first person to say this to you. Friends or family members can continually tell you to be kinder to yourself, but here’s the thing… we rarely listen, you and I. We’re so busy trying to be “good enough” (whatever that means) that we just keep pushing, criticising ourselves, trying, trying, trying. You have to, right? That’s how you get the dress finished. That’s how you make your dream business a reality – or make whatever else it is you are creating in your life real and solid. You have to work. HARD. As hard as you can stand. No, harder than that… And it’s not that we don’t get it – we do. We know we should go easier on ourselves in theory, but if you’re anything like me, it’s a sort of “yeah, sure, I’ll do that tomorrow”, half-assed agreement. We don’t really absorb the advice, much less act on it. Or at least I didn’t… until I had a very strange experience this week. For the first time, I quite literally saw myself as others see me, and I GOT it. I really understood thoroughly, for the first time, that I really DO need to lay off on the self-criticism. Let me take five minutes and share this experience with you in person… maybe you’ll even try it yourself so you can see...

This is what you can say to your inner critic

You know how you always think of what you SHOULD have said two days, two weeks, or two years later? 😀 Well, after almost thirty years wrestling with those unconscious haters in my head (yes, we all have them), I think I may have finally figured out what to say to them. Do you think this will work for you?     Artist referenced in this video: the magical Joni Steinmann, Rainbow Curve Corsetry See her fairytale journey back to herself through her Foundations Revealed Competition entries >>> 2016 – “Gilded Wrought Iron” 2017 – “Dragonfly Dreams” 2018 – “Mantis v Alien” Joni’s latest work, “Weald”, May 2018...

How to overcome self doubt

Sometimes it’s challenging to believe in yourself. How do you “put yourself out there” when you’re terrified? How do you make yourself believe that what you’re doing is “good enough”, when all you can see in your latest project are the parts that you didn’t do so well? We are all our own worst critics… and actually, that fact is the key to freeing your creativity from self-doubt.     Website referenced in this video: Modern Corsetry Renaissance at the Underpinnings...

Why the failed projects that you hate are your best friends

You know the projects I mean. The ones that are embarrassing. The ones that make you wince because you wasted so much time and money. The ones that were doomed from the start. Do you realise that they were actually the best thing that could have happened to you?...